Directly or Indirectly

Hello everyone. I thought about this today and thought I would share.

Who do we choose to give our kindness and compassion to? Have you ever asked yourself this question before? When is it considered being kind before it feels like someone is taking advantage of you? This is where directly and indirectly comes into play. We all valve our time right. Our time is important to yourself, family, and friends. By that time , who has any left to give? We all do if you know how and choose to. The perfect example is written below.

This young man, we will call him Anakin, has been working in this mechanic shop pretty much all of his adult life. He has came across people that needed help and people that just wanted to use his kindness whenever it was coinvent for them. It took a few times before he realized it. But that did not change how he was. He helped his old friends, new friends, and his family. In order to do this, he stayed after his shift ended to work on these cars because he had the knowledge and the means to repair their vehicles because that is the kind of person he was. he was trying to his best to help them save money. Some of the new friends only called upon him when they needed something, while his old friends and family spoke to him when they did not. Those people just needed him. I remembered being there on several occasions where he did some pretty extreme work and did not even ask for any type of payment. However, if they just give it him, he will accept. Who wouldn't. This type of kindness is Direct. These people he see mostly every other day, or come across them during a party, outing, or just hanging out on the weekend. Others would be the that lifetime friend. Either way, he enjoyed spreading that kindness to others.

Indirectly, he saved a life. Let me explain. during the years, there was a person, we will call him Jabba, that lives near the shop. Going to a local community college for auto mechanic. But, this person know a great deal already about engines. He was attending because several years ago, he was an accomplished drag bike racer. During a race, he had horrific accident leading to brain damage which affected his body movement, speech, cognitive abilities, and even seizures. So you can say, it is a miracle for him to be alive, much less walking and talking. Every once in a while while walking to and from class, he stops in to socialize. Anakin would stop what he was doing and speak to him about all kinds of stuff. Racing, engines, life, and even some way out there things. They became friends. Not the type to hang out or anything, but somebody that will stop in from time to time to escape the stress of his life to speak to someone that will give him the time of day. Soon the owners of the shop got to know him and did the same things that Anakin did, but not as much. Jabba stopped in to see Anakin and to see what new things they can discuss, even though it was maybe for 15-30 minutes at a time. Someone in Jabba's condition has a very high risk of suicide. He is on many medications for depression and anxiety due to his accident he had. So by Anakin, giving his time whenever he showed up, helped this person through some tough times whether he was aware of it or not. So by Indirectly showing and giving kindness with compassion to a person that just needed someone to talk to you made a huge impact on their life by not giving up on his own life.

So whether it is directly or indirectly, your kindness and compassion can help someone whether it is huge or minor. However, all kindness is welcomed. Choose wisely.